The Science of Spirituality
Living as a spiritually awakening person in Western society has been one of the most profound and challenging experiences of my life. I’ve faced many trials before, but none have transformed me so completely or called me to live with such depth, presence, and courage.
I didn’t expect awakening to feel so disorienting. When your inner reality shifts, the outer world appears almost unfamiliar. Everything is re-contextualized, your values, your relationships, even the way you see time and truth. The veil lifts, and suddenly you’re living in a world that few others around you seem to recognize. It’s beautiful and bewildering all at once.
The most difficult part of this transition has been navigating relationships. On one hand, making new connections is easier than ever. I feel more compassionate, more present, and more open to learning from others. I’m drawn to spiritually awake or awakening souls, people with whom I can have real, soul-nourishing conversations about the nature of existence, healing, and life purpose.
At the same time, old relationships, especially with family or long-standing friends, have often become strained. Early on, I believed those closest to me would understand what was happening to me. I assumed they would be curious, supportive, or at least open-minded. But awakening isn’t contagious like that. It’s deeply personal and often invisible to others. I quickly learned that most people are not yet ready to see what I now see, and maybe they never will.
At first, this hurt. I didn’t yet understand the inner workings of the mind, the unconscious patterns behind behaviour, or how deeply conditioned we all are, myself, included. But as I studied the mind and observed my own reactions, and those of others, I developed a kind of compassionate x-ray vision. I began to see the pain behind defensiveness, the fear behind control, the longing beneath the masks we wear. It was humbling. And healing.
If you have relationships that feel draining, are chaotic, or full of friction, I gently encourage you to pause and examine what’s really happening. Not from a place of judgment, but from a place of loving observation. Good science begins with curiosity, and you, yourself, are the best subject you’ll ever study.
As I was delving into neuroscience and many coaching techniques, a mentor suggested I become my own first client. So I did, and it was illuminating, and again, very healing.
I asked: What is motivating this dynamic between myself and this person? What does my body feel like around this person? Tension, dread, anxiety, anger, these are not trivial sensations. They are signals.
Conversely, notice who makes you feel light, joyful, and calm. We naturally gravitate toward those who lift us, who reflect back the wholeness we’re stepping into. That’s not selfish, it’s soul-guided. Not all relationships are meant to last forever. Some are simply chapters. Some are lessons. And some must be lovingly released.
One of the hardest but most liberating truths I’ve learned is this: no one is entitled to your energy simply because of shared history or shared blood. Love does not require self-abandonment. A wise teacher once told me, “Some people must be cut from your life like a cancer, or they will consume you.” That was not said with cruelty, but with deep compassion for the sacredness of one’s path.
And yet, I hold great tenderness in my heart for those who are not yet awake. We are all on our own timelines, and awakening cannot be forced. It’s not about superiority, it’s about remembering who we truly are. I now see un-awakened people not as “others,” but as future allies, walking their own necessary steps through the fog. I’ve been there too. We all have.
That’s why I feel so grateful to be awake now, in this time of global upheaval and transition. There is so much suffering in the collective field, but also so much potential for transformation. I feel I was given this awakening not just for myself, but so I can help others cross the threshold when they are ready. So, I can be a lighthouse in the storm. I knew this the same day I experienced my first profound transformation with sacred plant medicine, I knew I had found my calling.
Discerning authentic connection from superficial interactions has become both a spiritual practice and a kind of joyful experiment. I use life as my laboratory. Relationships as my curriculum. And every interaction, every trigger, every goodbye becomes another opportunity to practice presence, compassion, and love.
Awakening has brought challenges, yes. But it has also brought awe. It has brought gratitude, and a fierce devotion to being of service in this tender, extraordinary time on Earth.
If this speaks to your heart, stay tuned, I’ll be sharing more reflections on the wonder, mystery, and transformation that awakening continues to bring.
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